New Year’s Eve can be a challenging time for many of us. While some may look forward to celebrations, others struggle with the weight of reflection—ruminating on the past or feeling overwhelmed by the uncertainties of the future. As one of our Experts by Experience Leaders said, the pressure of the season can seem unbearable. “I remember a New Year’s Eve when I just couldn’t see a way forward. I felt like I was staring at an impossible mountain to climb.”
If this resonates with you, here are five tips to help you take care of your mental health this New Year’s Eve, shared by members of the Open Mental Health team.
1. Say No to New Year’s Resolutions
New Year’s resolutions can often feel overwhelming, especially if they’re grand or unrealistic. Instead, focus on small, kind goals that prioritise self-care and connection. “If you want to set goals, make them gentle and achievable,” an Open Mental Health volunteer suggested. “For example, you might decide to meet a friend for coffee once a week or attend a local wellbeing group.”
2. When Possible, Live in the Present Moment
It’s easy to get caught up in regrets about the past or worries about the future, but neither is real—only the present moment is. “The past and future can feel heavy,” said one member of the Open Mental Health team. “Sometimes, it helps to remind yourself that everything only ever happens in the now.”
That said, we know how difficult it can be to let go of those thoughts. “When someone told me not to worry, I used to think, ‘I don’t know how to stop,'” shared an Expert by Experience. It’s okay if you find this hard or impossible. Instead of trying to force yourself to stop worrying, focus on grounding yourself in small, manageable ways, like noticing your surroundings, taking a deep breath, distracting yourself with a film or game, or spending a little time outdoors.
3. Mental Health: It’s the Way We Treat Each Other
Be kind to yourself and others. Many of us are harder on ourselves than we would ever be to another person. Practise self-compassion. “If a friend was struggling, you wouldn’t criticise them for it,” shared a member of the Open Mental Health team. “Treat yourself with that same gentleness. Getting through this time of year is enough.”
Mental health is deeply connected to how we treat one another. “Sometimes, even the smallest acts of kindness, like smiling at someone or showing patience, can make a world of difference,” an Open Mental Health volunteer explained. By showing compassion and understanding in our interactions, we create a more supportive environment for everyone, including ourselves.
4. Recognise That Many People Feel Lonely
New Year’s Eve can amplify feelings of loneliness, especially when it seems like everyone else is celebrating. But it’s important to remember that many people struggle at this time of year. “You’re not the only one feeling this way,” said an Expert by Experience. “There are so many people out there facing similar challenges.”
For those grieving the loss of someone they love, this time of year can be particularly difficult. “The absence of someone special can feel sharper during New Year’s celebrations,” shared one member of the Open Mental Health team. “Allow yourself to feel those emotions and remember it’s okay to take things at your own pace. You don’t have to participate in traditions or celebrations if it feels too much.”
It’s also a time to be mindful of how our words may affect others. “While your calendar may be full, others might not have plans,” shared an Open Mental Health volunteer. “Be sensitive when talking about your New Year’s activities to avoid making someone feel like they’re missing out.”
5. Reach Out for Support
As the new year approaches, remember that you are not alone, and support is available. Take it one step at a time, and be gentle with yourself.
If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to seek help. Open Mental Health offers a variety of support services, including counselling, peer support, and community activities. You can also talk to someone anytime via Mindline Somerset at any time of the night or day by calling 01823 276892 or freephone 0800 138 1692.
For urgent help, consider Crisis Safe Space. Instead of going to A&E or suffering in silence, you can book a one-to-one session with a member of the Crisis Safe Space team. Sessions are available face-to-face or virtually, depending on the location. Call the number above or book online via our website.
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